7th June 2018
It’s amazing how much the media found to say about the Royal Wedding – whether that fascinated or bored you, it was reassuring to know that every family, however grand, has its challenges!
We had a wedding in the family recently – not quite on the same scale but with all the fun of catching up with relatives we hadn’t seen for a while and getting to know the ‘new’ family that’s joining ours. As the bride and groom made their vows, it was a great moment to reflect on how our marriage is doing. As we ate together with family, it was a reminder how important family is – mum or dad, son or daughter, sister or brother, uncle or aunt – we belong.
On the day of course, weddings are filled with joy, but as a pastor I get to look behind the scenes, meeting with couples to prepare them for the big day. Some couples have been through many challenges to get to their day; for some marriage is a discipleship choice, moving from living together to a lifelong commitment made before God; others are just full of heady optimism as they start the journey of marriage.
William and I celebrate 40 years of marriage this summer. We had no idea what lay ahead when we made our vows – I was still a teenager! We have lived in three different countries (well four counting Wales!), thirteen different flats and houses and one caravan! In it all we can testify to God’s amazing grace and faithfulness over the years. In the frustrations and disappointments, the surprises and successes, our heavenly Father has led us and provided for us. The hardest challenges have been dealing with our own characters and choices. There has been such tender joy when we have chosen forgiveness over resentment, and perseverance over giving up on each other. We can still look each other in the eye and gladly promise to love, honour, comfort, and cherish each other – choosing to be faithful for as long as we both shall live.
If you’re married, why not take a moment to review how you’re doing – what can you celebrate together this summer? Or reflect on your family life – is there someone in your family who would love to get a call from you, a relative you need to forgive or invite round for a meal? Let’s build family in a way that points to the preciousness of human relationships.
As a church we are God’s family, He is our Father, we belong together – every Sunday and group meeting let’s keep intentionally welcoming and including new people into the family.
Hilary Dalziel assists in leading the Catford site and is the main driving force behind Groups at King's. She is part of the Pastoral Care Team, oversees marriage mentoring and organises much of the training of pastoral care staff and volunteers. Hilary is married to William and they have three grown up children.
Steve Tibbert is on sabbatical and will be back in September.
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Steve Tibbert leads King’s Church London, with sites in Catford, Downham and Lee. Over the past fifteen years the church has seen continued growth, both in size and diversity. Steve is also involved in Newfrontiers and regularly coaches other lead elders. His book, Good to Grow, was published in July 2011. He is married to Deb, and they have three sons.