13th October 2016
This week, Deb and I have been speaking on a seminar for senior leaders within the Newfrontiers family on the subject of ‘Leading a Balanced Life’. To be honest, it’s quite a daunting task – many of them are far more qualified to teach on the subject than we are.
It seems to me that there is a remarkably high fall-out rate among pastors. Each time I hear a report of another pastor resigning because of emotional burnout, or adultery, or financial mismanagement, my heart sinks. It’s why I feel it is so important that we keep addressing the important issue of leading a balanced life, so that we can hopefully avoid the potential pitfalls that lie behind some of these tragic stories.
So how do we ensure that we remain physically and emotionally healthy when juggling the multiple demands on our time? How do we ensure that we are not prioritising work and ministry at the expense of our family? Of course, I am naturally more aware of the particular challenges facing pastors, but I am sure the same issues arise in all walks of life, whether you are a teacher, a doctor, working in business or you are a young mum at home trying to get by on minimal sleep. So whilst our seminar was aimed at pastors, I hope it helps us all.
Our three simple points were as follows:
1. Know and understand the season of life you are in and adjust accordingly
2. Whether you are single or married, invest in your primary relationships
3. Find a rhythm that works for you
Recently, another high profile pastor in the USA told his church he was resigning because, as he put it, he had been ‘running on empty for too long’. That is sad at so many levels. So I am calling my blog this week ‘Hug a Pastor Week’. Why not find your pastor on Sunday, provide them with a listening ear, commit to praying for them and give them some words of encouragement. And if you can’t find your pastor, why not find a teacher, doctor or young mum and do the same.
Posted by Steve Tibbert
Steve Tibbert leads King’s Church London, with sites in Catford, Downham and Lee. Over the past fifteen years the church has seen continued growth, both in size and diversity. Steve is also involved in Newfrontiers and regularly coaches other lead elders. His book, Good to Grow, was published in July 2011. He is married to Deb, and they have three sons.